For Global Design place an entry - 1-2 paragraphs about the relationships in your life that make it into the "group". Indicate how these relationships or group have helped or hindered you in your progress - due wednesday April 7th.
I have felt for years that this one friend in my life has kept me from experiencing fiendships with people who have more things in common with me because she had a baby when she was really young and always wanted my sympathy by "hanging out." She is very negative toward her own life, and upsets me so much that I end up coming home mad about even talking to her in the first place. I have known this person since I was two years old, and have never been able to end it for fear of being mean and perhaps selfish by telling her I no longer want to be friends with someone so negative. In school, I avoided her because people thought she was so strange, and always asked me "why was I friends with her?" Outside of school, we were like best friends. I still have these torn feelings after thirty two years of friendship, yet have not been able to give myself the permission to end the relationship. I have kept on trying with my goals and life despite her negativity, but do feel she drains all the positive energy out of me when she does contact me. I also feel that she was a backbone for me to be somewhere else and form other friendships because nobody liked her. I entered into volleyball in 7th grade,and again in 9th grade, but was so hard on my emotions and myself, I took everything personally from my coach and decided she might not be good for me to stay in that sport, and didn't sign up the next year. My jr. year I signed up for tennis, and my v-ball coach was coaching tennis. I decided not to take it personally,and stayed in tennis. Though tennis,and even my school was plagued with people who thought they were "popular," and limited others from developing friendships with them because they said that so and so isn't part of their "group," I had fun joining sports,and keeping active in positive things. I have been more independant in my choices growing up, and don't like the word "group," but have realized that there are good things about a group too, like collective reasoning, and having a sense of belonging. Sports defined me as a positive person who never gives up. I remember the trips to the games,it didn't matter if we won or lost,we'd always sing songs on the bus on the way to our traveling games. One song in particular all of us in volleyball sang to was Bon Jovi "Dead or Alive". There was a love song we all like to sing on that same album,but haven't heard it recently so I can't place the title. Volleyball Rules! Thank you, Angie.
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